This was a trying day.
In more ways than one.
It was a day for “trying” on clothes.
It was a day for “trying” to hold back tears.
It was a day for “trying” not to hate what I kept seeing in the mirror.
Or “trying” not to hate anyone who’s ever made clothes in the history of clothes making.
“Trying” to stop thinking that I needed to quit eating altogether. To stop thinking that life was easier when I just never ate. Or never ate the RIGHT way.
It was. It was fun to shop. Everything fit. I had a closet and dressers and boxes and shelves filled with clothes that fit. I was known for losing a ton of weight- and keeping it off.
My life was predictable. AS LONG as I lived the same way. Every day:
Lots of lettuce (like a head for each meal). Lots of popcorn (1-2 bowls- BIG bowls a night). Lots of cardio (at least 1 hour hardcore or 2 hours of walking).
A change in a meal meant that I had to starve myself or put in extra time on the elliptical. It didn’t matter if my knees hurt so bad I thought they were going to collapse. It didn’t matter if I was getting lightheaded. It was my only choice.
BUT- now I have more Freedom:
My workouts take 20-30 minutes, and a bonus walk/yoga sesh as time allows. I go out randomly to eat with friends more. I eat at people’s houses now. I don’t need special meals. Way less food/exercise anxiety, dread, and trepidation. I no longer believe that one meal, or even one bite of food… or one workout is going to ruin my life as I truly once did.
And with any “freedom,” there is a “price:” days like today. As I tried on failure after failure in the dressing room, I began to hate myself. The mean voices started telling me that I suck. It doesn’t matter how much I can lift if I’m still unable to get a shirt over my hips. It doesn’t matter how balanced my eating is if I’m still buying clothes way bigger than I’ve had to in almost 14 years.
Total mindf***, and a deep seeded, gulity feeling that I should wear a shirt that says, “Yes. I’ve gotten fat.”
By the time I left the dressing room, I resolved that I would just have to go back to not eating. Back to killing my joints. Back to socially isolating myself. Back to food and exercise anxiety. So. Damn. Much. Fun.
NOT.
I’m “trying” to get my body right. Now I need to keep “trying” to make my mind to catch up. I haven’t loved the person in the mirror for a long, LONG time. Even at my skinniest I was still mad at the loose skin- the saggy, pouchy, stretch-mark-stained loose skin. I was mad at my gigantic legs dotted with varicose veins. I was mad that the scale would sometimes I gained a pound in a matter of an hour (yes, I weighed myself A LOT).
Now I am “trying” to take my life back.
First it was drowning myself in food.
Then it was drowning myself in scales and numbers.
And now? Now I think I’m finally trying to live my life.
Am I perfect? Hell no. NOT trying.
I mean if I was, I imagine I’d be like all the other moms in leggings on the playground. Because they definitely have it all figured out, right?